Things to tell to the 22nd-year-old who thinks life is difficult, mean and bitch. Not just a 22year old but for everyone who thinks Life sucks
Life is normal and everything is great until that one day everything changes when you suffered from extreme isolation from disease, met with an accident, abandoned by the family because of your disability, harassed in schools/ college and so on. You started to have a panic attack, depression, fear and feel isolated from the world.
‘Life sucks!’ We all have utter these words number of times in a day that, “My Life really sucks.” You feel frustrated and no one understands what you are going through. You feel this is not going to stop and it’s going to be this way forever. You are not at all happy with your existing life and eventually, you accept it in your heart that your life sucks too. You know why? Because you think that you don’t deserve to be happy, you don’t consider this life as a gift, you are always finding reasons to complain about your job, about your relationships and the things which are continually trying to make you a better person every single day. You are completely disrespecting each and everything that is given to you. You are surrounded by the toxic people which has made you the kind of person who is always looking for the negative things in life. You feel this world will remain black and white and not colourful for you anymore. But it won’t last forever. Some days will be hard but Trust me!
YOU WILL SEE IT’S BEAUTY TOO.
Please take care of yourself, get some fresh air, watch a bird or an animal, wave and smile at the strangers, offer water or food to someone you see on the streets, talk to them and talk to yourself too. Then, take a look at how you are growing and shaping into a better human being. Yes, things must be hard right now but in the future, it won’t matter so much. I know it’s strange but you are learning and it’s helping you to build your unique character and to relate to other people more who are going through the same thing you are at this very moment.
I’m amazed by people who are so disappointed with their lives as if they have never felt anything positive ever. They are not at all contented with the things they own, their relationships, the food they are eating, the clothes they are wearing, the house they are living in, jobs they are doing and nature, animals, people, water, and other necessities of life that they are so ungrateful for.
There is so much to be grateful for, so much to do and explore yet we all complain about small things. We all are so busy running in fulfilling our desires and neglecting what we own that we hardly appreciate the life which is given to us, so it’s a kind of wakeup call for all of us…
These are the six important tips that I want to share with you all. It’s wake up call for all of us now or never.
- Learn to take care of your body. Your health will go down faster than you think, and you will not even have time to notice it.
- Stay away from people who treat you badly. Learn to say “No” to people, actions, and commitments that add no value to your life. Do not tolerate them for emotional reasons. There are always enough people in the world who respects and support you, so there is no reason to waste your time on people who do not value your presence in their lives. Period.
- You won’t achieve everything in the world so focus on what you are really good at. In life, everything is built on compromise. It takes years to find what we are really good at and brings pleasure.
- You must continue to grow and develop. Most of us start working on ourselves after 20. Always try to enrol yourself in new courses and seminars. Try gymnastics or yoga, art, dance or something that gives you joy. You can also volunteer with any Ngo. But your goal should be the desire to become a better person, partner, parent, friend, colleague, etc. – in other words, grow as a person.
- Invest in your family, it’s worth it. Spend more time with loved ones. When you grow up, your relationships change. Your parents will always see you as a child until you show yourself as an independent adult. Everybody gets old. Everyone dies. Use your time to build the right relationships.
- Be kind to yourself. Respect yourself and do something good for yourself every day, something else – every month, and something wonderful – every year.
Life can be pure beauty. Life can be truly amazing. But Life can also be a battle. Everyone’s journey is unique. Sometimes life is cruel. It’s okay to not have everything together. It’s okay if you haven’t yet figured out your life. It’s okay to not be perfect. Perfection does not exist.
Yes, things are rough right now for you and the only way you know how to cope is by being a perfectionist in every aspect of your life, but that isn’t how you cope. Stop worrying about every little thing. Just take a second to breathe. Hard times in our life help us to grow. Self-love is very important and it cures everything. Respect yourself, love yourself and you will see that your life has changed in beautiful miracles. Feel the love in every little thing- the process of life itself, the joy of being alive, the beauty you see in yourself and in another person, and the universe.❤️
You are stronger than you realize. You have survived. I hope you choose hope over-giving. Giving up is weak. Don’t ever feel sorry for yourself. You are not helpless and broken, the forces, energy and the vibes around you have caused you to change. It is okay to be pissed off, it is okay to be angry, it is okay to cry, all these emotions will push you to be a better person. Yes, you will run into people who are cruel to you and who treat you badly, but good people deserve a chance and are worth the pain they may cause you. Life will be hard no matter what. See the good in people and everything around you. Even the worst around you, search for good no matter how small it may be. Hold onto hope and faith in goodness, because the world is going to take that from you. Each moment is a new beginning. This moment is where you can begin to change. Right now or never. You are never stuck. You may feel heartbroken or disconnected from those closest to you. But the truth is, you are not alone. There are people you can talk to for support. You will get through this. I know it is hard to believe, but this too shall pass. You do not need to carry this burden alone If you feel like crying, cry. if you want to scream, scream. Never be ashamed of how you feel. Just know that others have been there before. Believe that you are not alone. You might just have to open your eyes a little wider and look around. There is someone out there who cares enough to listen.
If you know someone who is suffering, simply tell them they are loved and they are not alone.
“Live your life to the fullest, you only live once!”
We all have heard this quote.
But before I end, there are some questions that I want to ask all of you. Just think about it once and feel free to share your thoughts with me.
- How many of us are actually living our life to the fullest?
- When was the last time you had celebrated and expressed gratitude over small achievements?
- When was the last time you have done anything for someone who can’t repay you back?
- When was the last time you appreciated your belongings, your loved ones or any stranger who has helped you?
- Do you feel good about the way you treat most people in your life?
- Are there any toxic and negative people in your life?
- Do you have enough support from friends, family, mentors, and coach to help you achieve the personal and professional growth I desire?
- What are the most amazing things you have achieved in the last year?
- When was the last time you had a portion of good food, sleep and laugh?
- Are you living your passion?
- Think about your life, when was the last time you were thankful for your life?
Just think it over again and again and stop saying this: “My Life Sucks”
(Masters in Social Work)
Department of social work University of Delhi 3, University Road Delhi-110007